The 30th anniversary of my Father's death

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The 30th anniversary of my Father's death

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Bonifacio Murillo Salinas, my father, thirty years ago today, died in a terrible end to a remarkable and good life. His death triggered when service vehicle of NIA plowed into a head on collision with a Pepsi Delivery Truck. All of the passengers (mostly NIA contractors & engineers) including a cat instantly met their end.

Thirty years ago today, I was only one year & nine months old. I was angry because I didn’t even catch a glimpse of my father’s face. I was angry because I can't even remember how he held my hands and felt his embrace. Accepting that has never been easy. When I was a boy, I was simulating that life should have been better if my father was around. For a lot of years I mistakenly thought that event shaped much of my life and who I am. For a lot of years, I allowed the tragedy of his death to overwhelm the legacy of his life.

It still haunts me; but I recognize that the circle of life didn’t end with his death. His absence has given me so much perseverance and conviction rather than misery and despair.

Standing in the middle, looking backwards and forward, there is far more joy than regret.

Today I thank God for my father's life, in all of its imperfections and strengths. Someday we will be together forever, without time restraints. I look forward to telling him all that has happened since his death. Somehow, I know I will remember every detail.
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Thank you K-spy. I was able to read your post before the forum went offline.
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ohhh...that was nice…
I was so crying reading ‘coz I can’t even remember his death anniversary…
I was only nine months then…
…I feel so proud of him that old folks in Lianga can still remember him to date…I don’t know what he did…somehow I know..for me, he is a great and wonderful man.
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BONSAL wrote:Thank you K-spy. I was able to read your post before the forum went offline.
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lagi bon. abay ko dumdumon paga uno ko adto pag han-ay. :-)
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BONSAL wrote:
Today I thank God for my father's life, in all of its imperfections and strengths.
Hi Bon,

It’s difficult to characterize a father and his legacy especially if he’s done so much and taken so soon.

Safe to say that right now, ‘Yo Bonifacio is up there, beyond the foam of clouds, sitting in his cozy corner in heaven looking down on you and telling his friends gathered around him of how proud he is of you. :)

Belated happy father’s day!
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Thank you so much Mana Ems. The absence of my father is the striving force that keeps me moving with perseverance & conviction. Sometimes we need to endure pain in order to be resilient. And that's what makes life so beautiful.
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bon,

belated happy father's day! :roll :roll :roll


mana abb,

diin kaw gikan? kadugayi mo butwa #-o #-o #-o

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BONSAL wrote: Sometimes we need to endure pain in order to be resilient. And that's what makes life so beautiful.
Bon,
Truer than true.


Kibs,
Sorry didto ako sa Kapilihan yanugma. :-D Uno kita kita sa Araw Ng Tago? :shock
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Alibangbang wrote:
Kibs,
Sorry didto ako sa Kapilihan yanugma. :-D Uno kita kita sa Araw Ng Tago? :shock
mana abb,

aw amo? nah may alimango hasta pasayan? an banak mana? sus kalamii daman itun paksuyon. =P~ magkita kita sa araw ng tago? ay mana adlaw dakan kay ako pagahuwatan malaayi na gani kay bagan kadugayi pa nan august. usahay gayud ini kun motukar an ako pag LU ako gayud butadon inin adlaw para madali. :badgrin: :badgrin: :badgrin:

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