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[iCeprIncEsS]

pwede moshare? yacloud 9 sa gud ako..bitaw an isa nako ka article sa blogpaga print
sa sunstar weekend magazine, gusto lang nako ishare nganhi...sa birthday pa gayud ni mother min gawas..nakz! gi-murder
lang an ako family name...hmmm...ilisan gani nako,watch out!
hehehe!

http://www.sunstar.com.ph/weekend/08-13 ... sline.html

ako gikopya an text kay ilisan na nila after a week..wa sa nila
giarchive...

-yani

Crossline

Out of insecurity
By Laarni C. Lomactod

SOMETIME not too long ago, I was placed in a position wherein I had
to assess how much value I place on myself. It was a little
difficult: I thought I was so good I could do anything; and then
later on, because I couldn't do anything right, I needed a power
beyond myself. True enough, my relationship with Jesus solved the
latter. It wasn't because I was extraordinary that he accepted me,
that I could freely talk to him or about him or that I can do
something right. It is precisely because I saw that without Him, I
couldn't possibly amount to anything, much less do something.

Thus began my journey to freedom from insecurities and low self-image
because my Father in Heaven has a great plan and a beautiful future
for me.

A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to talk to a very young and
pretty girl about a situation that involved a relationship. I
challenged her to see herself beyond the relationship — to allow
herself to grow and mature into a woman of destiny. I talked to her
about respect, how she should set the standard, and not allow the man
in her life to determine how she should be treated.

It is funny how many young women close their eyes, playing blind to
the way their men treat them, even if deep inside, they know that
they deserve so much better.

I myself just got out of that situation. Three years ago, I met and
became fast friends with a very interesting man. We would talk and
laugh about anything and everything. His passion for God mesmerized
me. His dedication to his work left me in utter admiration. His love
for his family was simply wonderful. And little did I know that I was
falling for him. Despite the distance and differences in background.

One apparent difference seems so unthinkable from the start. He is
black, and I live among people who equate beauty with fair complexion.

But I have always had an eccentric taste. So it did not matter to me.

Because when he sang, it was as if the fairest of angels straight
from the heavens serenaded me.

Who would think those times would end? I know I didn't. While he was
very busy working, I saw myself missing him more. Until I could no
longer remember how he sounded. Until I have almost forgotten how he
looked. Until I just cry myself to exhaustion.

It made me think of the kind of man I want to marry. Surely he will
make time for me, no matter how busy he is. Surely he will make a way
just so he can see me. Surely he will not get tired of my presence.

And when we are older and the children are gone, we shall still hold
hands, kiss and hug. We shall still sing together, and we wont get
tired of talking to each other.

My talk with that girl challenged me to think about my own value and
self-respect. It made me think of this man that I have long dreamed
of waking up next to each morning for the rest of my life. That talk
gave me the courage to let go of whatever hopes I have about our so-
called relationship.

In the end, I knew I deserved better. And this time I will see myself
through this. God did promise to be my strength in my times of
weakness.

After all is said and done, I am still grateful that he became part
of my life. I know that whatever happened is always for the best. And
even if destiny is taking us to different directions, I am still glad
for the memory that, once in my life, a beautiful person added a
rainbow of colors to my semi-boring and dull existence.

[Carel Oliverio Ng]

Very well written. I'm impressed! Sadly enough, most of us underestimate our self-worth due to lack of self-confidence. We seem to focus on negative thougths in time that we are confronted with challenges in life; hence the reason our self worth deminishes. I am lucky though and just like you, that I have the ability to use any disappointments to my advantage. Like you, letting go of this person but yet make him partly responsible of who you've become is a very wise thing to do.

[BONSAL]

congratz ice! nice article. it's amazing. i am at awe.

[COLETZ]

wow! gaLing...

I couldn't agree more with you ice. Respect for oneself will always entail respect from others. And knowing what you want in the first place, living up to your own standards will not make you anybody's puppet, and not be taken for granted or mistreated for the lack of disposition.

I pray that you will find the man worthy of someone like. You truly deserve far better. God bless!